Is fibromyalgia real?
Yes. It is a recognised condition with a documented mechanism — the nervous system amplifies pain signals and lowers the threshold at which sensation becomes painful. This has been shown on functional brain imaging. Normal blood tests and normal scans are exactly what would be expected, because the problem is in how pain is processed, not in the tissues being scanned. It is classified as nociplastic pain, a recognised category, not a label for the unexplained.
Why won't anyone give me proper painkillers?
Because for this type of pain they do not work, and some make it worse. NICE guidance on chronic primary pain recommends against paracetamol, anti-inflammatories, opioids, benzodiazepines and gabapentinoids. Opioids in particular cause the nervous system to become more pain-sensitive over time, so people end up on higher doses with more pain. Coming off them, slowly, often improves things. What does help: exercise, sleep treatment, certain antidepressants used for their effect on pain pathways, psychological therapy and acupuncture.
Will exercise not make it worse?
Not if it is started at the right level — and that level is far lower than anyone expects. Five minutes of walking is a legitimate starting point, increasing by about 10% a week. Most people who say exercise made them worse were told to do a normal amount. Graded exercise has the strongest evidence of any treatment in fibromyalgia, and warm water is the gentlest way in.
I was told I don't have it because I failed the tender points test.
Those criteria are obsolete. The eighteen tender point examination was replaced years ago — it performed poorly and made the diagnosis depend on how firmly someone pressed. Current criteria use how widespread the pain is plus the severity of fatigue, unrefreshing sleep and cognitive symptoms. If that is the basis on which you were dismissed, it is worth reassessing.
Is the brain fog dementia?
No. "Fibro fog" fluctuates with sleep, pain and stress, and does not progress the way dementia does. It is a very common fear and a very understandable one, given how frightening word-finding difficulty is. Treating sleep usually improves it more than anything else.
Should I be tested for lupus or rheumatoid arthritis?
Only if there is a clinical reason — joint swelling, a rash, mouth ulcers, raised inflammatory markers. ANA and rheumatoid factor are positive in a meaningful proportion of perfectly healthy people, and a false positive leads to years of appointments, repeat tests and fear of a disease that was never there. It is one of the commonest avoidable harms here, which is why we test for a reason rather than routinely.
Is this the same as ME/CFS?
They overlap considerably but are not the same, and the distinction changes the treatment. If your defining feature is a crash lasting days after minimal exertion — post-exertional malaise — that points to ME/CFS, where NICE removed graded exercise therapy in 2021 and pacing is the approach. In fibromyalgia, pain dominates and graded exercise remains the best-evidenced treatment. Tell us which pattern fits, because we would plan differently.
Could it be my thyroid, or something treatable?
Very possibly, and it should be checked. An underactive thyroid, vitamin D or B12 deficiency, iron deficiency, coeliac disease and sleep apnoea all cause this picture and are all treatable. Statins can cause muscle aching too. A fibromyalgia diagnosis made without those exclusions is not a completed assessment.
Does it get worse over time?
It is not a progressive or damaging condition — it does not destroy joints, waste muscles or shorten life. Symptoms fluctuate, with flares and better spells, and many people improve substantially with pacing, exercise and sleep treatment. The trajectory is far more within your influence than it feels at diagnosis.