Isn't this just snoring?
No. Plenty of people snore harmlessly. What distinguishes sleep apnoea is the pauses in breathing, the gasping or choking, and the daytime consequences — waking unrefreshed, dozing off, morning headaches. Snoring alone is a nuisance; sleep apnoea raises blood pressure, stroke and accident risk.
I'm not overweight. Can I still have it?
Yes. Airway shape matters as much as size — a small or set-back jaw, a crowded throat, large tonsils or a blocked nose all narrow the airway in people of entirely normal weight. Weight is the strongest single risk factor, not a requirement.
I'm a woman and this doesn't sound like me at all.
That is exactly why women are under-diagnosed. In women it more often looks like insomnia, exhaustion, morning headache, low mood and brain fog than loud snoring and daytime dozing — and it is regularly treated as depression or the menopause for years. Risk rises sharply after the menopause. If you wake unrefreshed most days, ask the question.
Can I still drive?
Not if you are excessively sleepy — and if you are diagnosed with sleep apnoea causing sleepiness, you must notify the DVLA. That is a legal duty, and insurance may not cover an accident where it was not declared. The good news: most people drive normally again once treatment is working, so this is a temporary interruption rather than a permanent loss.
I couldn't tolerate CPAP.
Worth revisiting — the problem is almost always the mask rather than the machine, and there are many types. Ask to try a different one, add humidification for dryness, use the ramp setting, and treat any nasal blockage first. Most people who abandon CPAP do so in the first few weeks, before it has had a chance to work. A mandibular advancement device is also a genuine alternative.
Would losing weight cure it?
It can, particularly in milder cases — a 10% reduction substantially lowers severity. It is one of the situations where the newer weight loss medications are clinically relevant rather than cosmetic, and worth discussing. But do not delay treatment while working on weight; use both.
My watch says I have low oxygen at night. Is that a diagnosis?
No — consumer devices cannot diagnose sleep apnoea, and they produce plenty of false alarms. But if yours is consistently flagging disturbed breathing or low overnight oxygen, that is a perfectly reasonable prompt to arrange a proper home sleep study.
My child snores and is hyperactive at school.
Worth investigating together rather than separately. Children with sleep apnoea often present with hyperactivity, irritability and poor concentration rather than sleepiness, and it is regularly mistaken for behavioural difficulty or ADHD. It is usually caused by large tonsils and adenoids, and removing them is frequently curative.