Am I depressed or just going through a bad time?
A useful distinction is function and duration. Sadness in response to something difficult is normal, moves with circumstances, and does not stop you living. Depression persists for weeks regardless of what is happening, flattens enjoyment of everything, and affects sleep, appetite, energy and concentration. If it has been two weeks and you are not functioning as you were, it is worth a conversation.
Will antidepressants change my personality?
No. They should return you to yourself, not produce someone different. Some people describe feeling emotionally flattened, particularly at higher doses — that is a recognised effect and a reason to adjust the dose or switch, not something to accept indefinitely.
Are they addictive?
No, and the distinction matters. They do not cause cravings or require escalating doses. What they do cause, if stopped abruptly, is discontinuation symptoms — dizziness, electric-shock sensations, flu-like feelings, irritability. That is a withdrawal effect, not dependence, and it is why they are tapered rather than stopped.
How long will I have to take them?
At least six months after you feel well, because stopping at the point of recovery strongly predicts relapse. For repeated episodes, longer is often sensible. It is a decision to make together when you are well — not one to make in the middle of an episode.
Could this be my hormones?
Quite possibly, and it is important. Low mood, anxiety, irritability, poor sleep and brain fog in a woman in her forties frequently reflect perimenopause. Guidance is explicit that antidepressants should not be first-line for low mood related to the menopause, and HRT may be the better treatment. If that fits you, say so.
Do I have to take medication?
No. For mild to moderate depression, talking therapy works at least as well and its benefits persist longer after stopping. You can self-refer to NHS Talking Therapies free, without a GP. Medication is one option among several, and the choice is yours.
Does exercise really help?
Yes — with real trial evidence, not as a way of minimising the problem. For mild to moderate depression the effect is comparable to medication for many people. The difficulty is that depression removes the motivation to do the thing that helps, which is why starting far smaller than feels meaningful is the practical answer.
Why do I feel worst in the morning?
Diurnal variation is characteristic of depression — worst on waking, easing through the day. It is a recognised feature rather than anything you are doing wrong, and it is worth mentioning because it supports the diagnosis.