Will you just put me on antidepressants?
No. Medication is one option among several and it is not the default, particularly for milder symptoms where talking therapy performs at least as well.
Where it is right, it is genuinely effective and being offered it is not a failure. Where it is not, you will get a reason rather than a prescription.
Will you take them away if I am already on them?
No. If something is working, the sensible thing is usually to continue it. What we will do is review whether the dose is right, whether it is still needed, and whether side effects are being tolerated unnecessarily — sexual side effects in particular are extremely common, badly under-reported, and frequently fixable by a switch.
Why are you asking about my thyroid and my iron?
Because several ordinary physical conditions produce a picture that is genuinely indistinguishable from depression: an underactive thyroid, iron deficiency, low B12 or vitamin D, perimenopause, and untreated sleep apnoea.
Treating those treats the mood. Missing them means treating a symptom of something else for months, and it happens often enough to be worth a blood test.
Do I have to answer the suicide question?
You will be asked, and everyone is. Not because of anything about you specifically — because it cannot be inferred from appearance and it is the single most important thing in the consultation.
Asking does not plant the idea. That is a persistent belief and it has been studied repeatedly and found to be untrue. Most people find being asked directly a relief.
If you say yes, the GP will discuss what happens next with you. Nobody is sectioned for answering honestly.
Is this confidential? Will my employer or insurer find out?
Consultations are confidential. Nothing goes to your employer, your insurer or your NHS GP without your explicit consent, with the narrow exceptions that apply to every doctor in the country — a serious risk to you or to someone else.
If a fit note is needed, the wording can record a mental health condition in general terms rather than a specific diagnosis. Ask.
Can you assess me for ADHD or autism?
No — and be wary of anyone offering it in twenty minutes. Both require structured diagnostic assessment, evidence of symptoms in childhood, and usually collateral information from someone who knew you then.
What we can do is discuss whether assessment is warranted, screen for the conditions that mimic it, and explain the NHS Right to Choose route — which is free, is a legal right in England, and which most people have never heard of. More on that here.
Can I get something for sleep?
Not sleeping tablets — no z-drugs and no benzodiazepines, at a remote consultation, for anyone. They are dependence-forming, they stop working within weeks, and withdrawal from them can be dangerous.
What genuinely works for persistent insomnia is CBT for insomnia, which outperforms medication in trials and holds its effect after treatment stops. There are free and app-based versions and we will point you at them.
What if I am already under a psychiatrist or community team?
Changes should go through them. Parallel prescribing from two directions is a well-recognised way for people to come to harm.
We will happily review, explain and support — and where we think something needs changing we will write to your team rather than act around them.