My bloods were normal but I am still exhausted.
Worth looking at what was actually measured rather than the word "normal".
Ferritin in particular: symptoms occur well below 30, and hair and restless legs often need it above 50 — well above the level a lab flags as low. Thyroid antibodies, B12, vitamin D and coeliac screening are frequently not included either.
Bring the actual numbers, which is why we ask for results rather than a summary.
Will you prescribe sleeping tablets?
Not as routine treatment for insomnia, and it is worth knowing before booking.
They cause dependence and tolerance, stop working within weeks, increase falls, and impair driving the next day. Declining is the correct clinical decision — and the answer is the same at 9pm as at midday.
What actually works for insomnia?
CBT-I. It outperforms medication in trials and keeps working after it stops, which medication does not — and it is free through NHS Talking Therapies on self-referral, no GP needed.
Why would spending less time in bed help?
Because lying awake trains your brain to associate bed with being awake. Sleep restriction compresses time in bed to roughly the time you actually sleep, consolidates it, then extends gradually.
It feels wrong, it is harder for the first fortnight, and it is the most effective component there is.
How do I know if it is sleep apnoea?
Loud snoring with witnessed pauses in breathing, waking gasping, waking unrefreshed, and heavy daytime sleepiness. A partner usually notices before you do.
It is badly under-diagnosed in women, in whom it presents more as fatigue and insomnia than as classic snoring — and it is a cardiovascular risk factor in its own right, not only a sleep problem.
Does alcohol help me sleep?
It gets you to sleep and then ruins the second half of the night, fragmenting sleep and suppressing REM.
Stopping the nightcap for two weeks is the cheapest diagnostic test available, and for a fair number of people it is the whole explanation.
Is my sleep tracker telling me anything useful?
Usually not, and it may be making things worse. Consumer trackers estimate sleep stages unreliably, and there is a recognised phenomenon of people developing genuine sleep anxiety from tracker data.
How you function in the day is the better measure.
Could it be perimenopause?
Very possibly, and it is routinely attributed to everything else. Broken sleep and 3am waking are among the earliest perimenopausal symptoms, often arriving years before flushes and before periods change.
What about ME/CFS or long COVID?
Both are real, and both are diagnoses of exclusion — which means the treatable causes should be properly ruled out first, and frequently are not.
Fatigue lasting beyond a few months warrants proper assessment rather than being labelled "post-viral" indefinitely, and specialist services exist for both.
I want to come off sleeping tablets.
One of the more valuable things we do — and never stop abruptly. With benzodiazepines or z-drugs, abrupt withdrawal can cause seizures.
Reduction is gradual and planned, combined with CBT-I, which is what makes it hold. Expect one to two weeks of rebound insomnia, which is not evidence you needed them.