Can stress actually make me physically ill?
Yes — this is measurable physiology rather than a figure of speech. Sustained cortisol and adrenaline raise blood pressure, worsen blood sugar control, suppress immune function and increase inflammation. Chronic stress is an independent cardiovascular risk factor. The gut symptoms, skin flares and headaches are real consequences, not imagination.
Should I get my cortisol tested?
Almost certainly not. "Adrenal fatigue" is not a recognised condition, and the saliva cortisol tests sold to diagnose it are not clinically validated. The supplements sold alongside them treat nothing. Genuine adrenal insufficiency is a real and serious condition diagnosed quite differently, and we will test properly where the clinical picture warrants it.
Is this stress or anxiety?
Stress is proportionate to an identifiable pressure and eases when it lifts. Anxiety persists, generalises and continues after the trigger has gone. If you are worrying about everything rather than the specific thing, and it has not settled with the situation, it has probably moved beyond stress — which is treatable in its own right.
Is it the same as burnout?
No, and the difference is useful. Stress is having too much — urgency, over-engagement. Burnout is having nothing left — detachment, emptiness, cynicism. Burnout is also specifically occupational. They need different responses, and stress-management techniques applied to burnout tend not to work.
Would a drink not help me relax?
For about two hours, then it works against you. Alcohol fragments the second half of the night and produces rebound anxiety the following day, so the net effect over a week is more stress rather than less. It is the commonest coping response and the one that most reliably backfires.
Can you give me something for it?
Not benzodiazepines — they help briefly, tolerance develops within weeks, and they address nothing. If stress has developed into depression or an anxiety disorder, medication may well be appropriate for that. Otherwise the effective interventions are exercise, sleep, therapy and changing what can be changed.
Does mindfulness work?
It has moderate evidence and is worth trying. What it will not do is fix an unmanageable workload or an impossible situation — and being told to be more mindful about circumstances that need to change is understandably irritating. Free NHS-recommended apps exist, so there is no need to pay for one.
Could my hormones be involved?
Quite possibly, particularly in your forties or fifties. Falling oestrogen reduces stress tolerance, disrupts sleep and increases irritability, and a great deal of what gets labelled stress at that age is perimenopause. It is worth raising, because treating that may change how everything else feels.