How bad is the pain, really?
Severe. It is routinely described as among the worst pains people experience, and it comes in waves.
The distinguishing feature is restlessness — you cannot lie still or find any position that helps, which is the opposite of most abdominal emergencies.
Should I be given morphine?
Not first. NICE recommends an anti-inflammatory as first-line, because it works better for this specific pain.
Opioids are second-line, for where NSAIDs cannot be used or are not enough.
When is it an emergency?
Stone pain with a fever or shivering. That means a possible obstructed, infected kidney, which can become life-threatening within hours.
It needs urgent drainage, not antibiotics and a wait. Go to A&E.
Will it pass on its own?
Most stones under 5mm do, usually within a few weeks. Between 5 and 10mm it is less certain, and an alpha blocker may help.
Larger stones, or an obstructed kidney, usually need a procedure.
Should I cut out dairy?
No — and this is the commonest and most counterproductive mistake. Dietary calcium binds oxalate in the gut so it leaves in the stool rather than the urine.
Cutting calcium increases your stone risk. Keep a normal intake.
How much should I drink?
Two and a half to three litres a day, spread through the day and into the evening.
Judge it by urine colour: pale straw all day. That is a more useful target than counting glasses.
Does lemon juice help?
Yes, and it is not folklore. Citrate inhibits stone formation, and fresh lemon juice in water is specifically recommended in the guidance.
Will I get another one?
Around half of people do within five to ten years. That is precisely why prevention matters.
Most people are never given a plan, which is the most fixable part of stone care.
Why should I keep the stone?
Because the type determines the prevention advice, and the advice differs substantially between oxalate, urate and infection stones.
Strain your urine and keep whatever you pass — it costs nothing and it is very commonly forgotten.