Can I squeeze it?
No. Squeezing pushes infection into the surrounding eyelid tissue and can turn a minor stye into a spreading infection around the eye. Warm compresses bring it to a head and it discharges by itself, usually within a few days — which is when the pain stops. Do not pluck the lash or try to lance it either.
Do I need antibiotic drops?
Almost certainly not. Most styes settle within one to two weeks with warm compresses alone, and drops do little for an infection in a lash follicle. Oral antibiotics are for infection spreading across the lid or beyond — and that situation needs someone to look at it rather than a remote prescription.
How do I do the compresses properly?
Use a microwavable eye bag rather than a flannel, which cools within a minute. Five to ten minutes, three or four times a day, followed by gentle massage. Sustained heat is what brings a stye to a head, and inadequate heat is why people feel compresses are not working.
Why do I keep getting them?
Almost always because of blepharitis — inflammation of the lid margins. Treating each stye does nothing to prevent the next; daily lid hygiene continued long term is what breaks the cycle. And frequent styes in an adult are worth a diabetes check, since recurrent eyelid infections are a recognised way undiagnosed diabetes appears.
Can I go to work, or send my child to school?
Yes to both. No exclusion is needed — styes are caused by bacteria already living on most people's skin and are not meaningfully contagious. Wash hands, do not share towels, and carry on.
The pain has gone but there's still a lump.
That is a chalazion — a blocked oil gland left behind once the infection cleared. It is not infected, so antibiotics will not help. It needs the same heat and massage routine but for considerably longer, often one to three months. Ours is on the chalazion page.
When should I worry?
If the redness and swelling spread beyond the eyelid, if you develop a fever, or if it hurts to move the eye, your vision changes or you see double. Those suggest the infection is spreading into the tissues around the eye and need same-day assessment. An ordinary stye stays confined to the lid margin.
Can I still wear make-up and contact lenses?
Not until it has fully settled — and discard any eye make-up used while the stye was there. Afterwards, remove make-up thoroughly every night, avoid eyeliner along the inner lash line where it blocks the gland openings, and replace mascara every three months.