Is my baby in pain?
Honestly, nobody knows. Babies with colic look uncomfortable, but no clear physical cause has ever been established.
What is known is that they are otherwise healthy and that it resolves — which is not much comfort at 2am, but it is true.
When will it stop?
It peaks around six weeks and has usually settled by three to four months.
Almost all colic ends on its own, regardless of what was tried.
Does Infacol or gripe water work?
The evidence is weak for both. They are unlikely to harm, and if one seems to help you there is no reason to stop.
But you are not failing by not finding the right product. There may not be one.
Should I cut out dairy?
Not without advice. Cow's milk protein allergy causes a minority of cases, usually with other features such as eczema, diarrhoea or blood in the stool.
An unsupervised exclusion diet makes life harder and rarely answers the question.
Is it something I am doing wrong?
No. Colic occurs at the same rate in experienced and first-time parents, and in breastfed and formula-fed babies.
It is not caused by anxiety, inexperience, or how you hold your baby.
Could it be reflux?
Sometimes, but reflux is diagnosed far more often than it occurs.
Acid-suppressing medicine is not recommended for a thriving baby who simply cries, and it is prescribed for this a great deal.
What if I cannot cope?
Put your baby down safely in their cot, leave the room, and take a few minutes. That is the correct thing to do, not a failure.
Never shake a baby. And tell someone how you are — your health visitor, your GP, a friend. This is where help genuinely exists.
When should I worry?
Fever, forceful or green vomiting, blood in the stool, poor weight gain, or a baby who seems unwell rather than distressed.
Also a cry that sounds different — high-pitched, weak or moaning. That is not colic.
Does anything actually help?
Movement, holding, white noise and reducing evening stimulation help most, and cost nothing.
Probiotic drops containing Lactobacillus reuteri have the best evidence of the shop-bought options, mainly in breastfed babies.